Essential Oils and Love, Sex and Soul

Many essential oils used in aromatherapy are believed to encourage loving feelings and to exert an aphrodisiac action. For instance, jasmine oil has long been used in love sachets and incenses not only to enhance romantic love but spiritual love as well. The Sufis revere jasmine as a symbol of both romantic and spiritual love. Kama, the Hindu god of love, tipped his arrows with jasmine flowers so they would have the power to infuse the heart with desire.

Rose oil is another example in this reference. Since ancient times, rose oil has been consistently classified as an oil of love, femininity and emotional feeling. Roman brides and bridegrooms were crowned with roses, as were the images of Venus and Cupid, and rose petals were scattered on the marriage bed. When Cleopatra invited Mark Antony to her palace, she had the floor covered with roses because of her fervent belief in the romantic power of the rose’s scent. And among some American Indian tribes, braves gathered wild roses for the hair of their brides.

A wealth of other examples can be provided. For instance, some of the “magical” purposes for which vetivert oil has traditionally been used include love spells and overcoming an aversion to the opposite sex. Ylang ylang is considered to be an aphrodisiac specific for impotence and frigidity. The name ylang ylang is translated by some as “flower of flowers.” Ylang ylang is also called perfume tree. In Indonesia, its flower petals are often strewn across the marriage bed as a symbol of love.

Neroli oil, distilled from the flowers of the bitter orange tree, is associated with romance and sensuality. A bride and groom of Crete are sprinkled with orange blossom water; in other countries, young brides traditionally wear a wreath woven from orange blossoms. In days past, orange blossoms were fastened to the horns of oxen pulling the cart of Sardinian honeymooners. After reading the above anecdotes, one might come to the conclusion that there’s a great deal of congruence among these essential oils regarding the sphere of romantic love. However, they present only a top-layer perspective of the oils.

Soul-Nature and Spiritual PhytoEssencing

Plants are alive, and everything that lives has a soul. An essential oil is the carrier of its plant’s soul; in order to fully individualize the use of an essential oil so it can act deeply, even constitutionally, one must first identify its unique soul-nature. Then, the oil needs to be matched with the soul-nature of the individual for whom it is intended. Spiritual PhytoEssencing is a synthesis of certain aspects of aromatherapy, herbal medicine and folk medicine, Kabbalah, Chinese medicine, classical homeopathy, modern physiology, depth psychology, gemstone healing, color therapy and anthroposophical science. The soul-nature of an essential oil, rather than its chemical action, is emphasized.

Though not accessible to our ordinary intellectual consciousness, this soul-nature is the key determinant of the character of the oil. Every living cell must be animated by a vital force, or “ensouled,” and it is this incarnation of higher forces into living tissue that lends each organism its tangible expression. Kabbalists refer to this as the “descent of soul into matter.”

Founder of anthroposophical medicine Rudolf Steiner notes: “Matter is most spiritual in the perfume of the plant…When the spirit most closely approaches the physical earth, then we have the perception of fragrance.” The Kabbalah teaches that while the taste of a fruit such as an orange nourishes a human being on a conscious level, the scent of its oil provides sustenance for one’s spiritual dimension. According to the Kabbalah, the human soul contains plant, animal and human soul components. Thus, each of us has the ability to relate to plant souls on a soul-to-soul level. Hence, an essential oil, the bonding medium for the soul of the plant, is uniquely suited to act as the physical entity that can facilitate an interface between plant and human souls.

The plant soul is not encumbered by ego, so it has the qualities of purity and infinity. Thus, the individualized plant soul combination within a customized essential oil blend, when proffered to a specific human soul, is eagerly received and infuses the latter with an impetus to move beyond limitation by changing its orientation from the finite to the Infinite. The key to moving the soul in this way is the formulation of an oil blend which accurately reflects an individual’s true essence. Just as no two snowflakes are alike, each soul is completely unique.

While essential oils of jasmine and rose appear similar at first glance-both are known for their enhancement of romantic love and lovemaking-they are really very different. The following discussion of these oils from a soul-nature perspective, as elaborated by the Spiritual PhytoEssencing synthesis, highlights their differences.

Jasmine Oil Type

One of the keynote symptoms of the jasmine oil individual is fear of losing self-control. The jasmine oil type strives with might and main to retain control over an existence whose fabric is fragile and easily rent. She is a coequal mixture of passionate, noble sentiments and emotional hypersensitivity and vulnerability. Her weaknesses are resistant to eradication because she is consumed with the need to hide them, and thereby avoid insult and humiliation. Also, the jasmine individual is very much a prisoner of parental suppressive influences which dominated her early years. Although within herself she can sense the nobility of her individuated soul-nature, these remain haphazard glimpses that cannot be woven into a consistent pattern because she subconsciously continues to enforce the restrictions placed upon her at an earlier time by others. Hence, the jasmine oil type is an unstable mixture of feelings of nobility and low self-esteem, unsatisfied urges and impulsive actions.

In the realm of sexuality, she will either demonstrate extreme control manifesting as prudishness, lack of spontaneity or even frigidity, or else a lack of control manifesting as obsessive sexual fantasies, excessive masturbation and/or promiscuity. Here, we see not only the issue of control but also the theme of an inability to develop individuality, for the jasmine oil type is inherently romantic and passionate. Thus, in the case of the sexually repressed jasmine individual, there is no outlet for her unique admixture of romanticism and sexuality. Regarding the lascivious jasmine individual, the dominance of the more animalistic aspect of sexuality precludes the expression of a truly romantic nature.

Rose Oil Type

A keynote of the rose oil individual is the feeling of there is always hope. In fact, the central theme of rose is: If I find true love, everything will be okay. The Beatle’s tune “All You Need Is Love” is a perfect theme song for this type. Despite a record of love-interest disappointments and sorrow, an ember of hope continues to glow within the rose individual. She thinks: If only he will change this about himself, we can have the loving, intimate relationship I yearn for.

Also, this person is prone to fantasies about finding “Mr. Right.” She holds out hope that any trip she takes, any party she attends, any new job she takes, etc. offers the possibility of meeting her soul-mate. She may even believe that someday her one true love, perhaps her high school sweetheart that she broke up with decades ago, will reappear in her life and they will begin anew where they left off. In other words, the secret love she has revisited in her mind countless times magically returns to rescue her from the humdrum of an ordinary relationship. The rose oil type has a strong desire to travel which stems from fantasies about passionate romance in exotic locales rather than from a pronounced interest in other cultures. The rose oil picture also features the symptom: impulse to run. In some cases, the rose individual will impulsively leave a romantically unsatisfying relationship that’s safe and secure for a romantically charged one, even if it proves volatile and risky.

Sexual Love and Soul

Romantic love is a part of the flame of higher love which is always aglow in the human heart. Couples will, from time to time, encounter challenges that threaten their love. But rather than destroying a relationship, such challenges should refine it until it ascends to the very essence of Divine Love. In this reference, the great Kabbalist Abraham Isaac Kook writes: “Who can restrain the light of higher love that stirs in the heart…It beats like a gentle wind filled with delightful fragrance, at the same time roaring like the waves of the sea.” Kook’s comparison of higher love to a “delightful fragrance” is very telling regarding this discussion of Spiritual PhytoEssencing. True love between two people not only enhances the connection to their higher selves, but also serves as the foundation for a meaningful life and the realization of one’s full potential.

Sexual attraction in humans is so strong that it’s one of the few influences to offset the natural tendency of the human ego toward self-centeredness. Sexual love can help to overcome the power of egotism and inspire spiritual transformation, or individual “rebirth.” When sexual activity is merely a mechanism of delusional feelings or of submissive supplication, the soul cannot gainfully contribute to cultural or spiritual life. Hence, for an essential oil to be able to encourage true healing in the realm of love and intimacy, one must first assess its relevance for a particular individual by examining its innermost domain.

Copyright 2006 by Joseph Ben Hil-Meyer Research, Inc.

How To Ignite Your Sex Life

The sexual satisfaction is very important. Not only it is the cause of pleasure but also it contributes significantly towards good health. It also counts as a perfect source of recreation.

How can dissatisfaction ruin your life?

This is certainly a very pertinent question. The dissatisfaction in this activity can cause frustration which eventually results in several other problems. The improper sexual activity doesn’t help in the secretion of the hormones which are required for good health. The sexual activity results in the liberation of the hormones for pleasure and happiness. The dissatisfaction in this will result in stress, anxiety, etc.

What are the reasons for sexual dissatisfaction?

There are several problems which can adversely affect your life. The latest publication has also suggested that out of every 5 males, 3 are suffering from the sexual disorder. This is certainly a very shocking result as it is saying that around 60 percent of the males are suffering from one form of sexual deficiency or other. The most shocking revelation which this report has suggested is that most of the males don’t know that they are suffering from this problem.

Low Libido: It is a very popular disease in which the male loses its desire to have sex. People often think that the main reason for this is stress and anxiety. But, the exact reason for this is the hormonal imbalance. It is basically the function of the hormones to stimulate the desire for sex. The disorder into this is the result of the hormonal imbalance.

Premature Ejaculation: This is another very serious problem which adversely affects the sex life of an individual. In this, the male discharges early during the sexual intercourse. Even the touch or small stimulation during the sexual intercourse results in the discharge of the semen. The main reason for this problem is weak nerves. The nerve loses the power to hold the semen during the sexual intercourse.

Erectile Dysfunction: This disease is popularly known as impotence. In this, the male reproductive organ, penis doesn’t have the ability to get erected for sexual intercourse. This is certainly a very crucial step for intercourse. The penis needs to get inserted into the vaginal cavity and for this purpose, it needs to get erected. The erection is certainly a natural process and it is caused by the hormones. The imbalance in this is a result of this disease.

Is there a solution for this problem?

The sex specialists are offering treatment for the above-mentioned problems. Basically, they are offering two types of treatments, one is allopathic and the other one is ayurvedic. Both of these are demanded by the people, depending on their choice.

I trust ayurvedic treatment. Nature is full of mesmerizing gifts. There are several herbs which contain several ingredients which have the ability to make our reproductive system stronger. These herbs contain various constituents in the form of minerals, vitamins, etc. On regular intake, these constituents help in providing strength to the muscle and nerve of the reproductive system.

Another advantage which the medicines of the sexologist give is that they are free from chemical impurities. There are certain substances like steroids, etc which aggressively boost sexual the performance. This is not the case with the herbal medicines. They provide sexual strength in a natural process. These products and medicines increase the circulation of blood in the reproductive organ. The increase in the blood circulation provides complete nourishment to the tissues. Moreover, these also help in making the nerves stronger without offering any side effect.

Indeed, it is recommended to use herbal sex enhancement medicines. The main reason for this is that these medicines don’t help in the development of aggressive and wild behavior.

Why Pornography Should Be Introduced and Critiqued In Sex Education Programming At All School Levels

The phrase love that dare not speak it’s name was coined by Lord Alfred Douglas. It first appeared in his poem, “Two Loves,” printed (in the Chameleon) in 1896. It’s a reference to homosexual love, in Lord Alfred’s case, of Oscar Wilde, who was subsequently charged with gross indecency. Homosexuality was a criminal offense in England and just about everywhere else in the 19th century. Today, there is another sexual outlet not so much forbidden as not addressed in polite or other society – a new form of love the name of which sex educators dare not speak: pornography.

This is most unfortunate: a new study suggests that while parents may not be aware of the fact, pornography is the leading sex educator of the young. Alas, the porn industry has no interest in serving a sex education function and certainly does not do so, at least not in a positive, constructive or healthy fashion.

Porn is pervasive, particularly where it is most highly censored. China, for example, is the world’s leading consumer of porn. Jerry Ropelato, author of “Internet Pornography Statistics” at the research website Top Ten Reviews, notes that $3,075.64 is spent on pornography every second of every day. In this one-second period, 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography and 372 internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. Two of the top twenty search terms are teen sex and teen porn. The pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined. Data from 2006 reported worldwide pornography revenues at $97.06 billion.

Australian researchers David Corlett and Maree Crabbe filmed 140 interviews with young people in what was called “The Reality and Risk Research Project.” They discovered that teens are increasingly turning to the net for sex education. (Source: Denise Ryan, “Teachers urged to address porn factor,” The Australian Age, February 13, 2012.) Porn sex education exerts a destructive influence in the lives of the young. One of the investigators said, “Every young person we interviewed told us that pornography is a significant part of youth culture and particularly of young men’s lives.” She added, “Pornography has become harder, rougher, more hardcore.”

Porn, as you might expect, does not commonly offer instruction in matters relevant to conventional sex education (e.g., the nature of contraception, the prevention of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, the value of intimacy, principles of effective relationships). On the contrary, what it inadvertently communicates to young men, according to “The Project” research group, is reckless, coercive and abusive treatment of women. There is an absence of realistic perspectives and a dearth of respectful treatment of sexual partners. In addition, sexual practices of an unsafe nature are commonplace. While informed adults may have the maturity to manage such depictions, teens with little or, more often, no sexual experience clearly do not.

Since parents usually cannot keep porn from being accessed one way or another or one time or other by their children, the more likely best strategy is to include porn awareness in sex ed instruction. This is the focus of efforts by “The Project” team. Several grants have provided the resources to prepare and test programs for use in training sex education teachers for varied school grade levels. While teachers need skills to address this issue, teens need exposure to effective critiques of pornography’s representations of gender and sex. Among the objectives of the Project team is to develop teaching materials that present diverse scenarios for classroom discussions that will enable young adults to distinguish between what they see depicted in porn and reality.

The overwhelming majority of parents believe their child has never seen pornography. However, a 2003 Australia Institute investigation citied in the Australian Age article cited above reported that 84 per cent of boys and 60 per cent of girls had access to sex sites on the internet. A 2006 Australian study of youths aged 13 to 16 found that 92 per cent of boys and 61 per cent of girls had been exposed to pornography online.

Of course, Republicans in this country might favor a simpler solution: Pass new laws banning pornography or otherwise make it nearly impossible for young people to gain access to it. Given the widespread availability of social media of all kinds in the wired culture of our age, a reliance on censorship does not seem promising (not to dwell on the consistency of such a Draconian tactic with that troublesome First Amendment in America). Good luck cutting off porn – shy of creating a police state. Better sex education is cheaper and quicker, more likely and better suited to personal liberties and sound education.

Everyone, including the young, needs a broad set of knowledge and critical thinking skills to reject a sexuality that eroticises degradation and violence, glorifies unrealistic body types (particularly large breasts and out-sized penises) and undermines relationship elements founded on respect, courtesy and the common decencies.

It is hard enough in the current climate of Right Wing evangelical Republican culture war wedge politics to gain acceptance for sex ed of any kind, let alone adding porn assessment to the mix. If a school board or individual educator in this country tried to address pornography, he or she would be cited by Santorum, Romney or Gingrich as an example of what’s wrong with Obamacare. Try dealing with this crisis only if willing to deal with a firestorm of controversy from the Right.

Yet, all evidence and the lessons from Prohibition and the Comstock era suggest that ignoring or trying to repress the pervasiveness of pornography as it affects youthful sexual expectations and behavior is pernicious and irresponsible.

In my view, we need to make clear as part of sex ed that porn has nothing to do with love. We dare not NOT speak its name – and dare NOT ignore the reality of pornography’s dreadful influence on the sexual miseducation of the young. If this upsets Republicans, well, that’s just too bad. If they had enjoyed better sex education, they might be more sensible about such things – and probably less interested in porn, as well.

Be weller than well, give ’em hell and try always to look on the bright side of life.